That’s why family members, such as grandparents, will do their best to pressure and persuade their grandkids to marry when they’re in their twenties.On the other hand, American families are much less pushy on this subject.In a recent study of dating and marital preferences among young adults in China, only 38 percent of the female respondents disagreed with the statement that it is best to date and later marry only one man during their lifetimes (Mavrides, 2009).Most Westerners and Chinese people do want to settle, with marriage as the end goal, but Westerner are usually more open to that option later down their life.Related: How To Flirt in Chinese Since open dating is not common before college, Chinese people are generally less comfortable with dating casually, and are more serious when going into relationships.
However, for Chinese women, there is a societal ticking clock.
With the unsteady market growth and rising real estate prices, Xinhua News estimated that 50% of young people over age 30 cannot afford both a car and house (Xinhua 2010.) It is likely that the younger Chinese generation is also rebelling against "traditional marriage culture" and instead pursuing pure love, where economic stability of a spouse isn't as vital as it was.
Research also shows that gender norms are gradually shifting, and women are more eager to be independent, thus rejecting the notion that a man must provide a house and a car.
Of course flirting is still present in both cultures.
But, if there is dating before college then it is usually kept as a secret from parents.